Surviving Quarantine (Couples Edition)

Have you been seeing posts about high divorce rates during this quarantine, and or people not getting along with their significant other? Let me start with, it’s okay if you and your boo have been bumping heads during this pandemic. With the uncertainty of the world, finances being at risk, and quite frankly people are dying, it’s a no brainer that you and your significant other might butt heads. So if you’re at home fighting over desk space, in need of some space, or it’s too much space between you and your boo, here’s how your relationship can survive this quarantine.

First: Start with the root of the problem. Why are you two bumping heads? Are these problems that have only arisen because of the pandemic? Or are these problems that have always existed and now you are forced to really communicate and work on your issues? Once you address the root of the problem, it’s time to do the work.

Second: Communicate effectively. Listen, sometimes you and your boo get to going and before you know it, y’all are arguing and nothing is getting resolved. Why is that? Well, it’s usually one or two reasons. Reason 1. You’re talking at each other and not to each other. Reason 2. You’re not actively listening to one another. Communicating effectively will help you and your significant other work towards solving your issues and hopefully understand why the other person feels the way that they do. Remember the best way to communicate is in person or over the phone. NEVER argue with anyone via text. Your message is almost always lost, and you never accomplish anything that way.

Third: Support one another. As I mentioned at the beginning of this article, these are challenging times for everyone. If your significant other is an essential employee, give them all the love, support, and encouragement they need. Try to be their peace and not the reason they need peace. If you’re an essential employee, acknowledge the support from your significant other. They are also feeling the weight of the world and they want to feel loved as well. If you and your significant other are not essential employees, talk about this pandemic together. Ask your boo how the current state of the world makes them feel, and if there is anything you can do to support them during this time.

Fourth: Lastly, take it back to the beginning. Sometimes people need to be reminded of the why and of what started their relationship in the first place. Why did you choose this person to be with? Why do you love this person? What is something you two have always bonded over? What is something you both love about the other person and your relationship? Try doing some things that you did in the beginning to win your significant other’s heart. Although this virus called Corona is trying its hardest to destroy life as we know it, we must continue to push forward. Make your loved ones a priority, spread love, positivity, and stay safe.