Selfish

I have been taught to believe that being selfish is wrong. To a certain extent I agree. For example: if you love someone you should be selfless. You should consider that persons feelings and wants, and sometimes put their needs above your own. But if you’re a young woman on your grind, are you grinding towards a purpose and focusing on your personal growth? Or do you live by the code of not being selfish? If you had to choose between your growth, and being selfless which would it be? I’ve learned that sometimes being selfish is necessary. I am working towards being a better version of me. If someone enters your life, and they are a distraction from your growth, or do not align with your purpose, you have to be comfortable with saying no to this behavior. Your time, and energy is too precious to be tainted with or wasted. It’s okay to be selfish. It’s okay, to tell people no. It’s okay to focus solely on yourself. You have all the time in the world to be selfless. Now is the time to put your needs and wants first. Now queen, if you are already madly in love, or have children, this post is not so much for you. I am not saying walk out on your good man to pursue your dreams, or leave your kids with your mama to go party. But if you are finding yourself in a position where everyone else needs and wants come before your own, and you never have time to accomplish the things you want, its time to be a little selfish. It’s time to remember your growth matters too. The woman you desire to be is waiting for you queen, do whatever it takes to get there.