She’s just a little too Perfect

So I finally had the opportunity to watch “Nappily Ever After”. I thought this movie would reinforce how important it is to love my natural hair. It did, however it also made me reflect on how we as women aspire to be perfect. For example, we are taught as women that we have to be strong. We have to be the backbone for our men, and our children. We have to put on a smile even when we are in pain. We have to show up, and look the part. So many titles that we take on, and they all fall under this fake narrative that women must be perfect. I also listened to an interview on the Breakfast Club this week. They interviewed DL Hughley. Overall, it was a great interview. However, there was a certain point that stood out the most. DL Hughley mentioned how as men they often don’t look for women who are flawed, or make the same mistakes as them. He said “If you did that, and you acted like me, I wouldn’t value you.” Why are women told they must be perfect in order to be loved, and accepted by society? I’m here to tell you queens it’s okay to mess up. It’s okay, to not be strong. It’s okay to make a bad decision (never repeat it though). It’s okay to be weak sometimes, and vulnerable. No one on this earth, man or woman was born to be perfect. We are all imperfect, learning to love and live with our flaws.